As more families choose cremation for their loved ones, a frequently asked question is what to do with the cremated ashes. A popular option for handling cremated ashes is to scatter them in a meaningful location, but it’s not easy to make this decision in a time of grief. It’s helpful for families to know what options are available after the cremation process is over.
Before you decide where to scatter a loved one’s ashes, here are a few things to consider first. If the departed was cremated, you will receive notice from the cremation provider when the cremated remains are ready to be picked up. Cremated ashes (which look grayish-white in color and have a coarse texture) are usually returned to the family in a temporary container, like a cardboard box. However, you can provide your own cremation urn for storage.
Some families plan an ash scattering ceremony a few weeks or months after the cremation memorial service. Because there are specific laws and regulations against spreading ashes on private and public property, you’ll need to scout out locations beforehand and get permission, if necessary.
Also, people who are flying with cremated remains need to provide a death certificate and a certificate of cremation to pass through airport security. It’s also a good idea to confirm with the airline that cremated remains are allowed on board in checked luggage before you arrive at the airport.
Here are our top five places to scatter a loved one’s ashes (remember, you can choose more than one).
If you are looking for a special place that is convenient and accessible for family and friends, consider spreading your loved one’s ashes in a cemetery scatter garden. Many cemeteries, and even some churches, now offer scatter gardens where families can deposit remains for a small fee. Scatter gardens are serene spaces that you can visit time and again, and they are also a good choice for people who are interested in green funerals and like the idea of returning their loved one’s remains to the earth.
Scattering at sea is a popular option, especially for memorializing people who enjoyed spending time on the water. There are a variety of options available to families that are interested in burial at sea. For example, Eternal Reefs and Memorial Reefs International create new marine habitats for fish and sea life by mixing cremated remains with concrete. If you are planning a simple scattering ceremony in the ocean, keep in mind that the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) does not allow placement of the following objects within three nautical miles of the shore unless you have a special permit:
The United States has an abundance of scenic national parks that are perfect for scattering cremated ashes. If your loved one was a fan of nature or spent a lot of time in the great outdoors, choosing a national park as a final resting place is a meaningful memorial gesture. However, make sure you follow the rules. The U.S. Park Service grants permission to scatter cremated remains in national parks, but each location has its own rules. For example:
Perhaps you want to honor the person who died by scattering their ashes in a unique and memorable way. If launching your loved one’s cremated remains into outer space sounds like the perfect tribute, then consider booking a final trip on a spacecraft or satellite. Cremated ashes can be transported into lunar orbit or deep space via a special capsule attached to the satellite or spacecraft, and families often host a memorial service while watching the mission’s launch. This exclusive (and expensive) method of spreading the deceased’s remains has been described as a “permanent celestial journey” and a way to fulfill a loved one’s dreams of space travel.
Sometimes you just want to keep your loved one’s cremated ashes close to home. Home could be the place in which the deceased was most at peace, and scattering their remains in a significant spot in your garden or backyard makes for a simple and personal memorial. Make sure that you review all local zoning regulations regarding scattering ashes on private property before you get started. Keep in mind that if you move to a different location, you might not be able to revisit this special place because something else might be built over it in the future.
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